Long Distance Relationships

Nearly everyone has experienced a long distance relationship at some point in his life. Most of us have failed to maintain it and have broken up, even though this may have been a promising relationship. Why is that so?

To begin with, I was there myself. My ex-boyfriend and I both failed to make it lasts. But I still believed that if both person really love each other and their feelings are real, distance would never be the reason to break up.I realized that you must have true interest in each other, I mean a deep emotional connection, whether you’ve been together before or not. Physical attraction is not enough.we tried to use the glorious benefits of modern communication world i just asked for one (at least just one) email everyday but maybe he’s too busy to that. And just typing the word “ILOVEYOU” everyday in his keyboard would eaten up his time.I thought that using all this electronic stuffs will make it easier for the both of us, Imagine how it used to be 100 years ago, when a letter used to take months.but it didn’t!Our one sided communication- I mean with no physical interaction leads us to frustration intensively, that leads us both to misunderstandings that are very difficult to resolve trough phone call, e-mail or ym’s.And it’s really hard to have a fight over the phone.

Long distance relationships have both, advantages and disadvantages. For some, the distance is a good help to slowly open up to the relationship without the incessant presence of the partner. The romance stays kindled because you aren’t around the person 24/7 seeing various habits and routines that can get repetitive.

In terms of disadvantages, it is very frustrating that there is no intimacy, no hugging, no kissing. You will experience difficulties in connecting because you don’t have eye contact and can’t take walks or enjoy dinners out together.Remember, you only get a real connection by touching, feeling and smelling a person. You don’t get scent with email or skype, or that initial wow you feel inside when you see your love.

It’s the quality, not the quantity.

As you can see, I’m definitely positive about long distance relationships. They expose ongoing life lessons, and prove that love, loyalty, and faith are the vital ingredients to a lasting relationship.

Have faith, have trust and you both will succeed in the END. :)